The Right Way To Calm A Lady
Lots of guys do not know how to calm
and comfort their girlfriends when they are distressed or in a bad mode. Most o
the guys worsen the situation by doing the wrong thing, do not make that
mistake, follow this steps.
1. Give Her A Warm Hug
Pull her against you, but don't
smother her. It is best not to leave her alone even if she says you should, at
least not until you've tried at least five more times after that, just to be
sure. Then when you leave, touch her shoulder, arm or back one last time and
say "I'm here when you want me."
2. Carry Her Burdens
Speak in a low, soft voice and tell
her "You're amazing/beautiful/i love you/etc." "I'm on your
side." "We'll figure this out." "How can I help you feel
better?" Getting her to talk to you is good, but a conversation is
sometimes impossible, particularly if she is crying. Even if she doesn't respond,
you can keep murmuring reassurances in her ear. ]
Offer to help her. Say "I hate seeing you upset. What can I do to help you?".
Reassure her. You can always say something romantic to cheer her up. For example, "I love you so much. We'll get through this together." It really helps her a lot.
Offer to help her. Say "I hate seeing you upset. What can I do to help you?".
Reassure her. You can always say something romantic to cheer her up. For example, "I love you so much. We'll get through this together." It really helps her a lot.
3. Inquire What’s Wrong
If she doesn't want to tell you,
don't pressure her. But having an idea of what's upsetting her can help you
relieve her fear, sadness, etc. Do not tell her she "shouldn't be
upset" or in any way say she is wrong to feel bad. Feelings are never
wrong and you are there to be on her side.
4. Keep Your Opinion To Yourself
This is not a time for
"right" or "wrong" as far as her upset feelings go. Even if
you think she is "wrong" to be upset...that is not the point. The
point is it upsets her. Do not try and convince her that she is
"wrong" unless you want things to get 1,000 times worse. Wait until
after you have comforted her and things have completely calmed down before
seeking to open a real, calm and logical discussion. Until then, either agree
with her (if you really do) or, if you don't agree, just stick with comforting
sounds and hugging. Tell your side later!
5. Give Her Gentle Touches
Even if you're just a friend, these
physical touches are so small they won't seem overly affectionate. If you're
holding hands, use your thumb to rub small circles on the back of her hand.
Running you thumb over her knuckles has the same effect. Placing one hand on
the small of her back goes along with the first step, and you can gently hold
her against you this way. Also try stroking her hair.
6.Be Patient
If your girlfriend is openly
sobbing, it may take her a while to cry herself out. Continue these steps as
long as necessary, until she's calmed down. She will love you for it. Do NOT
leave her alone, even if she seems angry or grumpy, unless she has told you
before that she prefers to be alone when upset.
LADIES I HOPE THIS IS RIGHT.
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